DON’T DO IT
The kids are out of control, right? Maybe a good smack would do the trick. It worked for you, didn’t it? Back in the day?
Dr. Murray Straus (Sociology Dept. , University of New Hampshire) says physical punishment isn’t a good idea. Neither is giving the kids to the next door neighbor, by the way. His new book “The Primordial Violence” examines the evidence from 32 different countries and 7,000 kids in the US.
Does spanking work?
It does. – If you’re goal is to get the kids to shut up and stop being a pest. You can modify behavior, using force. It doesn’t take a genius. But don’t go there, okay? Here’s why.
There are other ways to get kids to behave that are just as good as spanking without the negatives. Spanking can mess up the bond between you and your children as well as affect their self esteem. Before you dismiss that as a lot of hooey, here’s what Straus saw from looking at what worked and what didn’t work with the thousands of kids he looked at. Kids that were spanked became “hitters” themselves. They struck out at other kids and even at their parents. When they grew up, they became physically abusive to their partners. Kids who were spanked developed slower mentally and they did worse at school.
That’s a lot of bad stuff considering that you can do just as well by just holding back on privileges or using “time outs” to get the same result.